For the times they are a-changin'

We all have that one possibly two friends where they will do anything to get a boyfriend or girlfriend and once they accomplish that they do anything to keep them. (Including loosing their dignity and self respect) If your that friend then you might as well stop reading this now because what I have to say can potentially offend you.

 I have a friend who’s boyfriend has been dicking her around for the past 5 months. Let me start from the beginning. I decided to play match maker which in the end would blow up in my face. I hooked my friend, lets call her Jane I hooked Jane up with my friend John. John was going through which seemed like the longest break up in history with his crazy ex at the time. So Jane and John hit it off. They began to spend a lot of time together and be consumed by each other as do other people in fresh blossoming relationships do. Well one day John went to a bar got hammered and made a sex tape with; you guessed it Crazy. Jane was hurt but forgave him for it. You see John has something he is notorious for doing which is ignoring a girl when he screw up. He ignores her for days on end. Jane finally grew the balls to break up with him via text and John just continued to ignore her. This isn’t the first time he would ignore her for days this is just the longest it has gone on. Five days later he decides he wants to talk now and work things out. Guess what Jane did?? Yep, she let that scumbag talk her out of the breakup. I mean you can’t totally blame John considering Jane is the only one that can stop it. She clearly is as much to blame for letting this go on for so long and to continue to let it go on. I just hope one day she wakes up and realize that isn’t how love is supposed to be. You shouldn’t have to force it, it’s something that just comes natural, no explanation.

I don’t know why some humans are so desperate for a companion, that they are willing to put their character and dignity on the line. Sure I like the comfort of having someone there and I would be a hypocrite if I said I didn’t. However I would never let someone treat me like a doormat just to ease the loneliness. What kills me is that people like that are actually pretty stand up people, they are just lacking in the judgment department. Girls if a guy has been ignoring you for DAYS it’s pretty safe to say they don’t give a shit and neither should you so move on. Also let just make this clear if they happen to text you after a few days of ignoring you and they say; “I want to work this out. I know I haven’t given you any reason to believe me but I do.” it’s a load of shit. Truth is they are lonely and miss having you there to support them emotionally and they probably just want to have sex. Oh and guys don’t text that kind of stuff it’s tacky. If you can’t do it in person then your clearly need to grow a pair. Now you can sit that and say ” If you love someone then you do anything for them and endure the bad.” Fuck that, that is a load of crap. If you love someone you wouldn’t be doing things to hurt that someone. The word ‘Love’ is used so freely and carelessly now a days.  Yeah there are going to be ups and downs but if the bad out weighs the good..what are you holding on to. It would be much more healthier for the both of you to let go and move on.

This is yet another post about how ridiculous some of my friends are. None the less they are my friends and even though they drive me crazy I love them. I will continue to give them the best advice that I can and they will continue to let it go in one ear and out the other. I guess that is life though living and learning on your own.

I’ve come to realize lately that some of my close friends and I have different ideas of growing up. Not that my ideas are any more accurate than theirs, because i mean lets face it we all grow up on our own rates. How ever nothing is more painful to the ears (aside from Miley Cyrus’s voice) then to listen to them bitch and moan for hours about ” What am I doing with my life?”. It’s like HELLO!?! We are all asking ourselves the same question and no one has the right answer. However only some people have the courage and aspiration to do something about it, while others just like to complain while carrying on with the same routine and going out to the local bar and getting wasted for 100th time this week thinking ” Well at least I’ve thought about putting my life in perspective, that’s got to count for something right?” NO! It doesn’t it’s great that you thought about it but why not keep that momentum you have going and taking it a step further other then just thinking about it. Growing up doesn’t entail tapioca pudding and bingo night it just means you will have a little more stability and direction in your life. Yes, growing up can be very intimidating  and not having a crystal ball to know the outcome of your future can be terrifying, but that’s life. That’s the beauty of the future, embarking on this journey through the unknown and making this trip your own. Life is an adventure and is what you make of it. Don’t let the what if happen to you, because you might just miss out on your destiny. I’m sure your reading this thinking: ” What does this girl know?” and the truth is not much more than any of you. Especially on a topic so up in the air. I do know this I’m scared shitless of the future but I’m not going to let fear keep me from attempting my dreams because in my humble opinion the one sure way to fail is to not go forth.